The film is about loss, more specifically about being stopped at some point in someone's life. The 4 main characters: the wife, the protagonist, the actor and the driver, are all in a period of their life in which they cannot chance or move forward from a loss they have suffered. It is interesting to analyze these characters through a theme that unites them: death. The protagonist blames himself for killing his wife, when his only real fault was that of waiting, lying, not talking to the woman he loves. The two find themselves in crisis after the death of their daughter and have probably not been able to heal from this, especially the protagonist who never tried to heal and deal with loss with his wife, never listened to her and despite the marriage fell apart and she was cheating on him. The two still love each other so they both never took a step because they were afraid of losing each other. This is until the wife decides to talk to the protagonist, but they will never be able to clarify or explain because he decides to prolong the moment as long as possible without doing anything. the death of his wife actually symbolizes the end of the relationship which has also ended Because he has never been able to go on, as he does now after the death of his wife, he has never been able to listen to her Because he is too hurt by the cheating. such a great pain has erased everything he had built up in years with marriage and now the same pain is continuing to kill his own life, paralyzed in the past, in search of an answer that will never come: and this is were the actor helps him: you can never really know someone, the only way to be able to really look at the other is to look inside yourself and be honest with yourself. The protagonist is finally able to shift the focus of his life on him, to see his own faults and his condition, a participant in this is the driver, who precisely guides him along this path. like the name of the film, he lets her drive his own life, the car, Orthe last material memory of his wife, that represents the man's entire life because he is still stuck at that moment. when he manages to turn the pages and get out of the car, a new life and healing process will begin for him.
The driver also blames herself for the death of her mother, and in this case she does nothing too, but she is aware of it, probably the biggest difference with the protagonist: she knows that she is going to kill both her mother and her best friend, she knows and does nothing, while the other ignores and pretends that nothing happens. the response to the mother's abuses is to let her die and similarly to the protagonist, after having suffered such great pain, one must also abandon the sweet part and the love that was in that pain, in this case: the other personality of the mother, a 8-year-old girl who is claimed to try to face the difficulties of life, treating everything with the same recklessness and innocence that children have. even the driver in the end lets go of death and the guilt of it that had been gripping her for years now, her scar was always there to make herself accountable to the fact, to remember, but in the future the scar is no longer there because the driver makes peace with herself.
Perhaps the most interesting character: the actor or the lover. probably apathetic, he can only feel something in wife's show, and because of this he falls in love with her and starts a relationship with her. he kills a man, this time he is totally aware of what he is doing, and unlike the other two cases he is actively participating in the murder. he knows what he is doing and does not ignore it, he takes his responsibilities: this is the fulcrum of the speech he makes in the car with the protagonist: it is useless to ignore what one is, or the cruel actions towards the world that one does, because they have already been done, and, if the only way to know each other and appreciate what others can give us is by knowing ourselves, if we can only love others when we love ourselves, then we might as well accept ourselves for who we really are, without hiding even in the face of our own evil.
Actor is the opposite of the protagonist: one is active, the other passive towards life; one is irrational and cannot control himself, the other is cautious and silent, like this film.
Review by Ciao come staiBlockedParentSpoilers2022-09-04T19:48:31Z
The film is about loss, more specifically about being stopped at some point in someone's life. The 4 main characters: the wife, the protagonist, the actor and the driver, are all in a period of their life in which they cannot chance or move forward from a loss they have suffered. It is interesting to analyze these characters through a theme that unites them: death.
The protagonist blames himself for killing his wife, when his only real fault was that of waiting, lying, not talking to the woman he loves. The two find themselves in crisis after the death of their daughter and have probably not been able to heal from this, especially the protagonist who never tried to heal and deal with loss with his wife, never listened to her and despite the marriage fell apart and she was cheating on him. The two still love each other so they both never took a step because they were afraid of losing each other. This is until the wife decides to talk to the protagonist, but they will never be able to clarify or explain because he decides to prolong the moment as long as possible without doing anything. the death of his wife actually symbolizes the end of the relationship which has also ended Because he has never been able to go on, as he does now after the death of his wife, he has never been able to listen to her Because he is too hurt by the cheating. such a great pain has erased everything he had built up in years with marriage and now the same pain is continuing to kill his own life, paralyzed in the past, in search of an answer that will never come: and this is were the actor helps him: you can never really know someone, the only way to be able to really look at the other is to look inside yourself and be honest with yourself. The protagonist is finally able to shift the focus of his life on him, to see his own faults and his condition, a participant in this is the driver, who precisely guides him along this path. like the name of the film, he lets her drive his own life, the car, Orthe last material memory of his wife, that represents the man's entire life because he is still stuck at that moment. when he manages to turn the pages and get out of the car, a new life and healing process will begin for him.
The driver also blames herself for the death of her mother, and in this case she does nothing too, but she is aware of it, probably the biggest difference with the protagonist: she knows that she is going to kill both her mother and her best friend, she knows and does nothing, while the other ignores and pretends that nothing happens. the response to the mother's abuses is to let her die and similarly to the protagonist, after having suffered such great pain, one must also abandon the sweet part and the love that was in that pain, in this case: the other personality of the mother, a 8-year-old girl who is claimed to try to face the difficulties of life, treating everything with the same recklessness and innocence that children have. even the driver in the end lets go of death and the guilt of it that had been gripping her for years now, her scar was always there to make herself accountable to the fact, to remember, but in the future the scar is no longer there because the driver makes peace with herself.
Perhaps the most interesting character: the actor or the lover. probably apathetic, he can only feel something in wife's show, and because of this he falls in love with her and starts a relationship with her. he kills a man, this time he is totally aware of what he is doing, and unlike the other two cases he is actively participating in the murder. he knows what he is doing and does not ignore it, he takes his responsibilities: this is the fulcrum of the speech he makes in the car with the protagonist: it is useless to ignore what one is, or the cruel actions towards the world that one does, because they have already been done, and, if the only way to know each other and appreciate what others can give us is by knowing ourselves, if we can only love others when we love ourselves, then we might as well accept ourselves for who we really are, without hiding even in the face of our own evil.
Actor is the opposite of the protagonist: one is active, the other passive towards life; one is irrational and cannot control himself, the other is cautious and silent, like this film.